Redecision Therapy

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Jessica started off the session with BRAGGING ! She got the rest to brag and several of us responded in a childlike manner. (I supposed BRAGGING came from the FREE CHILD EGO.) I told Magdalene who was sitting next to me that I bragged all the time I had run out of things to brag. As I typed this journal, an urge came upon me to brag. I felt a great sense of admiration as I observed how my Chartered Scientist husband help a China company set up a rather well-equipped laboratory here in Singapore within 2 months, early this year. At age 60, he is steadfast and committed in his endeavors. And that’s impressive!

I was exposed to TA and Gelstalt during the Grad Dip and I did fairly well for my essay. With some basic understanding of TA and Gelstalt, my level of apprehension towards Redecision Therapy was manageable. In fact, I was looking forward to be equipped by the new tool. Jessica was a creative and intuitive facilitator in that she knew how much the students could chew per time. I was glad she went slowly with the more confusing aspect such as the different level of orders in Structural Analysis.

Going through the TA second time round reinforced my previous understanding of it. We were asked to partner with another to do our own Script Matrix. I was delighted to partner with Mag as I found her to be very intuitive too. The outcome of the process revealed our racket and repressed feelings as well as our early decisions. I cried a lot growing up (RACKET FEELING - SAD). It was my way of adapting to the harsh words thrown at me. Inside me I was scared, hurt and angry. (REPRESSED FEELINGS) My life position was I am not OK and you are not OK. And that explained my suicidal ideation. Mag helped free me from the injunctions by giving me the permission to Speak Up, to be Assertive and to be Real.

I learnt what it meant to confront the “CON” or ways in which the client discount the self, the therapist or the reality of the situation. (For e.g., help my son to realize he is in the wrong.) When client contracts to change but 2 parts of his personality are pushing in opposite directions with equal force, he is said to be `stuck’ with a problem (Impasse). Impasse clarification helps prepare the client for Redecision work. The 1st , 2nd and 3rd degree Impasses were not difficult to understand. However, the Redecision Work can be a challenge. Clients may find it awkward to go back to the early scene to re-connect with and settle unfinished business with their late parents especially if the clients had been taught to respect the elders at all times.

Redecision Therapy will be adopted in my counseling work when my clients are willing to track back to an early trauma to re-experience it and change the early decision.